Posted by Happiness depends 50% on genetics, 40% on personal choices and 10% on the environment. Those percentages can change in extreme situations, like a war, but the keys to happiness are the same in almost all cases.
In other words, you can be happy, if you want to be happy. It depends on you, your choices and your behaviors.
CULTIVATE PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
The quality of personal relationships is a differential factor when we talk about happiness. Spending time with the people we love the most, feeling part of a family or a community, talking to people, hugging them, looking at their faces, feeling physically close to someone are the pillars of a person’s well-being.
On an individual level, research was done by Martin Seligman, father of positive psychology, and his colleagues on the happiest people in the world. What differentiates them? They have strong intimate relationships.
THE KEYS TO HAPPINESS
ABOUT THE BEAUTIFUL ENEMY: The phrase “beautiful enemy” comes from a text by Ralph Waldo Emerson, who was a 19th-century American philosopher. You don’t look for a lot of concessions in a friend, a person who agrees with you in everything he says. What he is looking for is a person who will challenge him, who will pressure him, who will be a beautiful enemy to help him reach the truth.
Sometimes we need a pat, someone to tell us that we are great despite everything. But in the long run, we want someone real, to tell us when you disagree, to challenge us, to help us reach the truth, to be better people, to be more successful, to be happier. That is the real friend, not a person who gives us the reason for everything we say.
DISCONNECT FROM TECHNOLOGY
We have never been so connected and disconnected at the same time.
According to the anthropologist Amber Case, one of the protagonists of the first Telis forum, it is the paradox of our times.
We live so dependent on Smartphone’s that they become extensions of our own bodies. We are cyborgs: half human, half robot.
The smart phone is a fabulous invention for connecting people, but it is a means, not an end. Empathy and other emotions need closeness and physical contact. You have to learn to disconnect from technology or, at least, to put a limit on it.
GRANT YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE HUMAN
Being human is accepting that negative feelings have a place. One of the main obstacles in the search for happiness believes that you can always be happy.
We get angry, we get sad, and we feel envy. There are only two types of people who do not experience pain, such as anger, sadness, anxiety, disappointment, envy, fear… The first is psychopaths, they cannot feel painful emotions. The second type of person who does not feel them is the dead.
SOCIAL NETWORKS also play an important role, we tend to believe that they are a faithful and real reflection of life and the perfect life of others causes us frustration. Moreover, we feel compelled to fake a perfect life and air it on our social networks.
To be happy, YOU HAVE TO BE AUTHENTIC AND REAL.
LEARN TO REST
The real problem is not the stress itself, but the lack of recovery. It’s not just about sleeping, it’s about resting. Happy and healthy people know how to manage their time and take time off.
YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL
It is a simple exercise with enormous power. Science has shown that those who express gratitude regularly and don’t take what they have for granted, don’t ignore problems, but don’t ignore what they have either. These people are not only happier and more optimistic; they are also more successful and achieve their goals. They are physically healthier.
Stick with the word “Appreciate” means to give thanks for something. But the word “appreciate” has another meaning: Increase value, there is scientific evidence that shows that when I appreciate my partner, when I appreciate my work, when I appreciate my life, the good things in my life increase in value and I have more.
STUDY HAPPINESS
If we want to educate happy people, we have to teach happiness from the earliest stages of learning just as we teach mathematics, geography or history.
It is necessary to complement traditional subjects with training in soft skills such as flexibility, creativity or resilience.
INVEST IN HAPPINESS
Work is one of the main indicators of our levels of happiness. Much depends on us and how we deal with everyday life in the workplace.
However, organizations can do a lot to make their workers happy. In fact, they should invest in happiness.
A happy worker works more, in less time and is much more creative. It is about changing the terms of the equation. It is not success (cause) – happiness (effect), but happiness (cause) – success (effect).
MAKE A LIST OF YOUR PASSIONS AND STRENGTHS
Ben-Sahara is the creator of the MPS process, which stands for “meaning”, “pleasure” and “strengths”.
This method consists of establishing lists of things that are significant to us; things that give us pleasure; and finally our strengths.
The second step is to search for matches between these lists. Where the important things, the pleasant things and the things that we are good at coincide, is where we usually find happiness.
TRAIN HAPPINESS
Disconnect, cultivate personal relationships, and give space to all human feelings, including negative ones. All this is very good, but it has to become a habit, a routine habit.
We have to train happiness as we do with our body practicing sports regularly. If you want to be happy, start doing things that make you happy.